Marriages are surely a gamble. Some of the worst personalities make a good one, while some of the best humans get into bitter divorce.
There is really no way to find out background or deep dark secrets of either spouses before marriage, however, the only way possibly you could understand a person and their nature is by spending enough time with them before getting into the legal bond.
Here’s a story shared by a husband where marriage for his wife was all about comfort and lifestyle. When the same was curtailed by the man, she left home and filed false cases against him.
We had an arranged marriage in 2017. Both of us were working and we chose to go on a fancy honeymoon trip abroad. She was an independent woman and we moved to the city of our work which was different from where my parents lived.
Initially things were smooth, however, soon I realised that her demands for a fancy lifestyle were ever increasing. She wanted to go abroad for holidays every two months because hashtag #travel #traveldiaries. She ensured we went for a movie to a theatre twice a week because hashtag #entertainment. While I never married a domestic help, but she would never cook and food would be ordered from a restaurant almost everyday because hashtag #foodie. My parents were not allowed to visit me in our home, nor I was permitted to go to their place for more than one day.
I also realised that my wife had serious anger management issues, both at home and at work.
Independent but Never Contributed at Home
Although my better half was working and earning quite well, that ‘half’ was never seen in the financial contribution at home. It was me and only me who had to spend on every single need and expectation because like most feminists today, working women proudly boast ‘my money is my money, your money is my money’.
After a while, I subtly touched upon this matter with her parents, asking them to intervene so that there could be equal share in the household spendings, since we both were working. Surprisingly they told me that now it was my responsibility fully.
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Things were getting too far and this is when I decided to put a stop to some of her demands. When I took a stand and reasoned out the same with her, instead of discussing and debating the matter, she just left the matrimonial home in a fit of rage. After a few days, her father called me to inform that things were not working out between us and thus they wanted to end marriage and that I needed to part with X lakh for alimony.
I was stunned and before I could react, I was gifted with a false police complaint, false domestic violence case, extortion demands, and what not!
At the Court
Whenever women cry that they do not have any laws in their favour, please ask them to visit family courts to get an understanding of how husbands are treated with or without their fault.
After briefly hearing our matter, the judge told me in front of everyone at the court,
X lakh de ke settle kar do na! (Why don’t you pay up XXX million and settle the matter)
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The whole machinery systematically tries to demotivate you, bully you, depress you. Everyone knows who is right and how false allegations are levelled against the man and his family, however, everyone ends up telling you,
Kya Kar Sakte hai! (What can be done…)
I lost some friends who were quick enough to judge me, lost peace of mind for some time but once I started going to Courts, I realized that there were many other men who were going through worse than me, yet refused to give up.
Won’t Give Up
I am fully determined to fight against the false domestic violence case and charges levelled against me. For anyone who tries to question the ‘number’ or percentage of false cases against men, please try to visit one single family court on any given day. You will realise what kind of cases are filed against men and their families and even a commoner can tell that it is all about money at the end of it.